If you keep asking “am I too needy in a relationship?” the real question might be whether you are asking for basic care from someone giving the bare minimum.

“If they wanted to, they would” sounds simple, but it can actually fuel overthinking, relationship anxiety, and self-doubt. If you’re constantly trying to figure out what someone’s behavior means or questioning where you stand, this pattern might be keeping you stuck. Here’s what’s really going on and how to stop overanalyzing your relationships.